News Update 30th June & How to work Together

Open Day

The open day is still scheduled to go ahead on the 16th of July. To help us get the message out please talk to Sensei Hezie about taking a flyer to put up at work or your local community centre.

Bar Room Brawl 12th August

On Friday 12th of August we are going to carry out one of our famous Out-of-Dojo self defence training sessions.

We’ve done out-doors urban, we’ve trained for out-doors rural, But never before have we trained in the place where it all kicks off, the pub.

We will be using a private room in a public bar to run our simulations, so the atmosphere could not be more realistic. With a number of different situations and scenarios to play out you’ll be sure to have both a great learning experience and a fantastic time.


Partners, Not Opponents; A New Way of Thinking

The words we use are very important. Words are the tools that convey thoughts and feelings to others. Some words can be interchanged without affecting the intent of the message. ‘Partner’ and ‘opponent’ can both be used to describe the relationship between two people who practice martial arts together, but their meanings are vastly different. The term you choose, ‘partner’ or ‘opponent’, reveals your attitude and fundamentally shapes your approach to practice.

“To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.”

Bruce Lee

Opponents in Practice

What comes to mind when you hear the word ‘opponent’? You might think of victory and defeat, winning and losing, or keeping score. ‘Competitor’, ‘rival’, or even ‘enemy’ also come to mind. Imagine a dojo where everyone adopts an ‘opponent’ attitude. In every class, people pair up, and try to beat the stew out of each other. Each tries to throw harder and faster techniques, and the sparring is intensely aggressive. ‘Aggressive’ is the key word here. An opponent mentality promotes rivalry in practice. Most surely, the environment is split, and not down the middle. Very few people can handle such a tough challenge or thrive on this level of competition. The strong take advantage of the weak. Injuries are frequent and severe. The majority will quit early in their practice, never realizing how martial arts could have changed their lives.

Adapting an opponent attitude is futile; your struggle is always with yourself.

Opponents in Life

Maybe you’re thinking, “Only the strong survive.” But is the goal to survive, or is it to grow and use the practice to evolve? With an adversarial attitude, the only thing growing is the competitor’s ego. This mind-set migrates into everyday life. In defence, you could say that a person who takes on the world by storm usually accomplishes a lot. In reality, they are often over stressed, tend to be perfectionists, and are sadly unfulfilled. They overlook their successes, because they are too busy trying to conquer the next frontier. They focus on the next trophy, the next relationship, degree, job, or bigger house. They seem to always be pushing themselves, fearful that someone will catch up. At the end of life, despite a long list of accomplishments, they are still not satisfied. Happiness and contentment, obtained only through inner peace, remains elusive until the end. The earlier in our life we learn this concept, the better: Adapting an opponent attitude is futile—your struggle is always with yourself.

If you are only concerned with victory and defeat, you are a narrow minded and selfish individual.

Partners in Practice

A great martial artist said, “If you are only concerned with victory and defeat, you are a narrow minded and selfish individual.” Think of the difference in your practice, when you view the other students as your ‘partners.’ Your potential, and that of your partner, is virtually unlimited. A good partner is just as, or even more, concerned for the progress of the other person. As you practice, no longer is every man out for himself, or one person pitted against all the rest. Instead, each person works on his own skills, while helping the other students to improve theirs. The environment becomes one of increasing progress, a partnership, rather than a mindset of kill or be killed.

The power of practicing with a partner

A great partner is like a chameleon. He has the sensitivity to recognize the skill level of the other person, and sets his level of intensity at, or just above, that of his partner’s. At all times, he encourages his partner to work towards his greatest potential.

Some might fear that by practicing with this attitude, they will lose their competitive edge, which they believe pushes them to practice hard. On the contrary, pushing and challenging each other should be vigorous and exciting. As you build greater trust, the practice will become more intense. This allows everyone to work on their weakest as well as their strongest techniques. Skill levels of both partners, and enjoyment of practice grows in every class.

Senior students recognize that partnering with beginners gives them a chance to correct poor technique. They also get to practice against techniques that aren’t as clean, straight and crisp, perhaps more like a real confrontation on the street. When senior students work together, they can practice advanced techniques with speed and power, because they have developed control and trust.

“Softness triumphs over hardness, feebleness over strength. What is more malleable is always superior over that which is immoveable. This is the principal of controlling things by going along with them, of mastery through adaption.”


Be a better partner at home and at work

Taking this concept into your everyday life will dramatically affect your personal and professional relationships. At all times, try being a partner at home, rather than an opponent. Your family life will be happier and more rewarding. Remember the saying. “Would you rather be right, or happy?” Often ask yourself, “What can I do to help?” Try not to harbor resentment or feel victimized.

Whatever the service or product might be, customers want to do business with people that they like. Always strive to be a partner, helping wherever you car. Be a problem solver, and you will be successful.

You will become a better partner, and everyone in your home will be happier. At the office, this concept can turn salesmen into trusted advisors. Your new facilitating role could lead to more and much larger sales. Your clients will feel like they are in a win/win situation. Nobody feels as if they’ve been cheated, and your clients will want to return to you again and again. Remember, both in and outside of the dojo, everyone wants to work with a great partner. So develop your sensitivity and partner skills.


Here’s a short story;

A business owner; plagued by lagging sales figures and negative employee attitudes, hired a consultant to bring new energy into the company. The consultant quickly realized that the cause of most of the problems related to the pay structure of the sales people. They were forced to compete against each other; rather than working for the good of the company. The cutthroat attitudes made life at the office almost unbearable. He suggested that the owner not only restructure the sales department, but implement a bold new bonus plan to inspire greater teamwork.

At the end of the year, each salesperson would receive a five thousand dollar award to be passed along to the co-worker who helped him the most in the past year. The sales department embraced the new idea with enthusiasm. With inside competition eliminated, people worked happily on their assigned accounts, and the environment became quite pleasant.

“Do every act of your life as if it were your last.”

Marcus AureIius

One salesman, Trevor, seemed to thrive in this atmosphere. He had always enjoyed selling and often attended outside sales training courses to improve his techniques. When a technique worked well for him, he shared it with others in the office. He generated many leads, sometimes more than he could handle in a timely manner, so he passed along extras to the other sales people. Although he lost some commissions, he felt that a happy client was better for the company. His friendly attitude was infectious, both inside and outside of the office walls.

At the end of the year, the company’s sales figures were at the highest levels ever. The happy owner distributed the five thousand dollar bonuses. As agreed, the co-workers began passing the special awards along to those who had helped them the most. To his astonishment, Trevor received 80% of the special awards. Although he had missed a few commissions, he had the best year of his career.

Whatever the service or product might be, customers want to do business with people that they like. Always strive to be a partner, helping wherever you can. Be a problem solver, and you will be successful.

“It is one of the most beautiful  compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson


Sensei Matt Thurman Shudokan Black Belt Academy – Aikido Nottingham